Marriage, a History
How Love Conquered Marriage
(Sprache: Englisch)
Erst in den letzten 200 Jahren begann man, die Ehe als eine persönliche und private Beziehung zu sehen, die emotionale und sexuelle Wünsche erfüllen sollte. Sobald dies geschah, wurde freie Entscheidung die gesellschaftliche Norm der Partnerwahl, Liebe...
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Erst in den letzten 200 Jahren begann man, die Ehe als eine persönliche und private Beziehung zu sehen, die emotionale und sexuelle Wünsche erfüllen sollte. Sobald dies geschah, wurde freie Entscheidung die gesellschaftliche Norm der Partnerwahl, Liebe wurde der Hauptgrund zu heiraten, und als erfolgreich wurde die Ehe definiert, die den Bedürfnissen der Beteiligten entsprach. Doch diese Entwicklung hatte zur Folge, dass die Erwartungen an die Ehe immer größer wurden. Kaum hatte das Ideal der Liebesheirat über die Zweckgemeinschaft triumphiert, als das Recht auf Scheidung gefordert wurde, falls die Liebe verging. Die renommierte Familienhistorikerin Stephanie Coontz zeigt, wie wenig wir über die Geschichte der Institution Ehe wissen und wie erhellend eine Beschäftigung mit der Vergangenheit für die Zukunft unserer Paarbeziehungen sein kann.
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Just when the clamor over "traditional" marriage couldn t get any louder, along comes this groundbreaking book to ask, "What tradition?" In Marriage, a History, historian and marriage expert Stephanie Coontz takes readers from the marital intrigues of ancient Babylon to the torments of Victorian lovers to demonstrate how recent the idea of marrying for love is and how absurd it would have seemed to most of our ancestors. It was when marriage moved into the emotional sphere in the nineteenth century, she argues, that it suffered as an institution just as it began to thrive as a personal relationship. This enlightening and hugely entertaining book brings intelligence, perspective, and wit to today s marital debate.
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George Bernard Shaw described marriage as an institution that brings together two people under the influence of the most violent, most insane, most delusive, and most transient of passions. They are required to swear that they will remain in that excited, abnormal, and exhausting condition continuously until death do them part. 1Shaw s comment was amusing when he wrote it at the beginning of the twentieth century, and it still makes us smile today, because it pokes fun at the unrealistic expectations that spring from a dearly held cultural ideal that marriage should be based on intense, profound love and a couple should maintain their ardor until death do them part. But for thousands of years the joke would have fallen flat.
For most of history it was inconceivable that people would choose their mates on the basis of something as fragile and irrational as love and then focus all their sexual, intimate, and altruistic desires on the resulting marriage. In fact, many historians, sociologists, and anthropologists used to think romantic love was a recent Western invention. This is not true. People have always fallen in love, and throughout the ages many couples have loved each other deeply.2
But only rarely in history has love been seen as the main reason for getting married. When someone did advocate such a strange belief, it was no laughing matter. Instead, it was considered a serious threat to social order.
In some cultures and times, true love was actually thought to be incompatible with marriage. Plato believed love was a wonderful emotion that led men to behave honorably. But the Greek philosopher was referring not to the love of women, such as the meaner men feel, but to the love of one man for another.3
Other societies considered it good if love developed after marriage or thought love should be factored in along with the more serious considerations involved in choosing a mate. But even when past societies did
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welcome or encourage married love, they kept it on a short leash. Couples were not to put their feelings for each other above more important commitments, such as their ties to parents, siblings, cousins, neighbors, or God.
In ancient India, falling in love before marriage was seen as a disruptive, almost antisocial act. The Greeks thought lovesickness was a type of insanity, a view that was adopted by medieval commentators in Europe. In the Middle Ages the French defined love as a derangement of the mind that could be cured by sexual intercourse, either with the loved one or with a different partner.4 This cure assumed, as Oscar Wilde once put it, that the quickest way to conquer yearning and temptation was to yield immediately and move on to more important matters.
In China, excessive love between husband and wife was seen as a threat to the solidarity of the extended family. Parents could force a son to divorce his wife if her behavior or work habits didn t please them, whether or not he loved her. They could also require him take a concubine if his wife did not produce a son. If a son s romantic attachment to his wife rivaled his parents claims on the couple s time and labor, the parents might even send her back to her parents. In the Chinese language the term love did not traditionally apply to feelings between husband and wife. It was used to describe an illicit, socially disapproved relationship. In the 1920s a group of intellectuals invented a new word for love between spouses because they thought such a radical new idea required its own special label.5
In Europe, during the twelfth and thirteenth centuries, adultery became idealized as the highest form of love among the aristocracy. According to the Countess of Champagne, it was impossible for true love to exert its powers between two people who are married to each other. 6
In twelfth-century France, Andreas Capellanus, chapl
In ancient India, falling in love before marriage was seen as a disruptive, almost antisocial act. The Greeks thought lovesickness was a type of insanity, a view that was adopted by medieval commentators in Europe. In the Middle Ages the French defined love as a derangement of the mind that could be cured by sexual intercourse, either with the loved one or with a different partner.4 This cure assumed, as Oscar Wilde once put it, that the quickest way to conquer yearning and temptation was to yield immediately and move on to more important matters.
In China, excessive love between husband and wife was seen as a threat to the solidarity of the extended family. Parents could force a son to divorce his wife if her behavior or work habits didn t please them, whether or not he loved her. They could also require him take a concubine if his wife did not produce a son. If a son s romantic attachment to his wife rivaled his parents claims on the couple s time and labor, the parents might even send her back to her parents. In the Chinese language the term love did not traditionally apply to feelings between husband and wife. It was used to describe an illicit, socially disapproved relationship. In the 1920s a group of intellectuals invented a new word for love between spouses because they thought such a radical new idea required its own special label.5
In Europe, during the twelfth and thirteenth centuries, adultery became idealized as the highest form of love among the aristocracy. According to the Countess of Champagne, it was impossible for true love to exert its powers between two people who are married to each other. 6
In twelfth-century France, Andreas Capellanus, chapl
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Inhaltsverzeichnis zu „Marriage, a History “
Part One: In Search of Traditional MarriageChapter 1: The Radical Idea of Marrying for Love
Chapter 2: The Many Meanings of Marriage
Chapter 3: The Invention of Marriage
Part Two: The Era of Political Marriage
Chapter 4: Soap Operas of the Ancient World
Chapter 5: Something Borrowed: The Marital Legacy of the Classical World and Early Christianity
Chapter 6: Playing the Bishop, Capturing the Queen: Aristocratic Marriages in Early Medieval Europe
Chapter 7: How the Other 95 Percent Wed: Marriage Among the Common Folk of the Middle Ages
Chapter 8: Something Old, Something New: Western European Marriage at the Dawn of the Modern Age
Part Three: The Love Revolution
Chapter 9: From Yoke Mates to Soul Mates: Emergence of the Love Match and the Male Provider Marriage
Chapter 10: "Two Birds Within One Nest": Sentimental Marriage in Nineteenth-Century Europe and North America
Chapter 11: "A Heaving Volcano": Beneath the Surface of Victorian Marriage
Chapter 12: "The Time When Mountains Move Has Come": From Sentimental to Sexual Marriage
Chapter 13: Making Do, Then Making Babies: Marriage in the Great Depression and World War II
Chapter 14: The Era of Ozzie and Harriet: The Long Decade of "Traditional" Marriage
Part Four: Courting Disaster? The Collapse of Universal and Lifelong Marriage
Chapter 15: Winds of Change: Marriage in the 1960s and 1970s
Chapter 16: The Perfect Storm: The Transformation of Marriage at the End of the Twentieth Century
Chapter 17: Uncharted Territory: How the Transformation of Marriage Is Changing Our Lives
Conclusion: Better or Worse? The Future of Marriage
Conclusion
Notes
Autoren-Porträt von Stephanie Coontz
Stephanie Coontz is the Director of Research and Public Education at the Council on Contemporary Families and teaches history and family studies at The Evergeen State College in Olympia, Washington. She divides her time between Makaha, Hawaii, and Washington. The author of the award-winning The Way We Never Were: American Families and the Nostalgia Trap, she writes about marriage and family issues in many national journals including The Washington Post, Harper s, Chicago Tribune, and Vogue. Her work has been translated into Japanese, German, French, and Spanish.On the web: http://www.stephaniecoontz.com
Bibliographische Angaben
- Autor: Stephanie Coontz
- 2006, 448 Seiten, Maße: 21,336 cm, Kartoniert (TB), Englisch
- Verlag: Penguin Books UK
- ISBN-10: 014303667X
- ISBN-13: 9780143036678
Sprache:
Englisch
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