Communicating Effectively to Win a Woman's Heart (ePub)

The goal of this book is to show men how to replace catcalling with respectful communication that can win a woman's heart. Many men don't know how to express feelings of attraction to women, so they resort to catcalling comments that are rude and offensive. This book provides a better, more effective way to approach women.

Often the barrier between a man's effectiveness in communicating with a woman and his achieving his goal is just ignorance. Yes, ignorance! Ignorance of the right words to say, the right actions to take, the right gestures, and every other activity involved in communication. The good news, however, is that no matter how bad a man may be at communicating with a lady, he can become a pro at it through deliberate learning.

The first chapter of this book focuses on how men can take advantage of certain situations to engage in fruitful conversations. I give an example of how I engaged ladies in clubs when I used to party frequently. In such situations, there are opportunities to have long conversations with ladies and become very good friends with them. Then after I stopped clubbing, I took advantage of a walkway in Manhattan where people wait for the traffic light before they can cross the street. I have met many ladies there, including one that invited me for a Buddhism meeting.

In the next chapter, I include findings from my analysis of New York Times Sunday wedding announcements. These posts include information about how each couple met, along with other interesting facts about their relationship. I have tracked the ways in which some of the couples met so you can learn from their experiences. One that particularly interests me is the couple that met while waiting for an elevator in a midtown Manhattan building. Imagine that! One of them started a conversation, the other responded, and eventually they got married. This book shows how to learn from couples like that and to be bold and courageous enough to take advantage of situations where conversations can start.

This book also addresses the need to have a topic of discussion before starting a conversation. The topic must be something that you feel comfortable with and that matters to the lady. You wouldn't want to burden the innocent lady with a boring topic. Imagine talking to a lady about the English Premier League; that would be interesting to her only if she liked English football. A more appropriate topic might be fashion.

Many men are willing to approach a lady, but they are quite clumsy and unskilled. They do not know the exact way to start a conversation, what to discuss, or how to keep the conversation going. For this reason, this book includes an example of a speech to use when you meet a woman. If you study it well, you can become creative enough to derive your own speech, or you can follow the outline I made to deliver an excellent speech to a woman. The speech is in a conversational style so you can flow freely while talking with any lady you're attracted to.

This book also includes useful comments and questions. You don't want to wear a lady out with incessant questions. Instead, you can make comments about various things, such as her looks, her hair, and the weather. An interactive conversation draws the lady in and shows her that you're interesting. If you have trouble keeping a conversation going, this book provides question and comment suggestions that can keep the talk flowing.

If you have been a catcaller because you lack the skill to approach a lady and communicate with her properly, or if you are not a catcaller but would like to improve your conversational skills, you will find this book very useful. Its simple advice and realistic examples show you how to communicate effectively to win a woman's heart.