Post Separation Abuse. Betrayal & Abandonment, What Type Of Man? (ePub)

This book is in three parts.
Part one takes the reader through a journey of how the author attracted a man into her life. One that she thought was her friend, lover and soul mate. The kind generous professional businessman that she had envisaged by writing What Type Of Man and thinking of what she desired in her next relationship. The reader will discover more about how that relationship unfolded over a period from 2009 to 2020.
The author describes the often bizarre or odd behaviour of her partner, the "Dear Diary" entries she wrote when she experienced what she termed emotional abuse and bullying behaviour. She writes her story to raise awareness of hidden abuse in relationships. The betrayal, abandonment and post-separation abuse lead to the conflict and the legal positions between Spain & the UK. How her crazy idea of starting a "mindfulness retreat" resulted in her ex-partner threatening her with illegal eviction and then civil court action and threatened with being forcibly removed from the property.

Part two highlights the obvious gap in the laws in UK & Spain that seems to be draconian and barbaric. When the UK legal profession and Law Commission know there are gaps in the laws, knowing that the situation is far from equitable. In fact, the Law Commission had concerns back in 2006 and published a consultation paper on cohabitation. Since 2007 how many lives have been destroyed or women have been left living in poverty or reduced circumstances because of the lack of protection in law. What price is in action? Despite the advancement of UK & Spanish legislation in the fight against gender violence, it seems that there are still some failings with the systems in place.

Part three focuses on useful resources and looks at the methods of healing the author used and how individuals might use those methods for recovery after emotional and psychological abuses.