Stranger Care
A Memoir of Loving What Isn't Ours
(Sprache: Englisch)
NEW YORK TIMES EDITORS CHOICE A powerful, heartbreaking, necessary masterpiece. Cheryl Strayed, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Wild
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NEW YORK TIMES EDITORS CHOICE A powerful, heartbreaking, necessary masterpiece. Cheryl Strayed, #1 New York Times bestselling author of WildThe moving story of what one woman learned from fostering a newborn about injustice, about making mistakes, about how to better love and protect people beyond our immediate kin
May you always feel at home.
After their decision not to have a biological child, Sarah Sentilles and her husband, Eric, decide to adopt via the foster care system. Despite knowing that the system s goal is the child s reunification with the birth family, Sarah opens their home to a flurry of social workers who question them, evaluate them, and ultimately prepare them to welcome a child into their lives even if it means most likely having to give the child back. After years of starts and stops, and endless navigation of the complexities and injustices of the foster care system, a phone call finally comes: a three-day-old baby girl named Coco, in immediate need of a foster family. Sarah and Eric bring this newborn stranger home.
You were never ours, Sarah tells Coco, yet we belong to each other.
A love letter to Coco and to the countless children like her, Stranger Care chronicles Sarah s discovery of what it means to mother in this case, not just a vulnerable infant but the birth mother who loves her, too. Ultimately, Coco s story reminds us that we depend on family, and that family can take different forms. With prose that Nick Flynn has called fearless, stirring, rhythmic, Sentilles lays bare an intimate, powerful story with universal concerns: How can we care for and protect one another? How do we ensure a more hopeful future for life on this planet? And if we re all related tree, bird, star, person how might we better live?
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trailing spouseI always imagined myself a mother. I kept a list of possible names for my future children, pictured myself pregnant and listening to fast fetal heartbeats, looking in wonder at the image on the screen. But I had reservations. I d absorbed the messages in the cultural ether that framed motherhood as both holy work and trap. My ambivalence grew.
When Eric and I married in 2004 we agreed we d eventually have a child, but we were busy doing other things writing dissertations, writing books, chasing academic jobs around the country and by the time we started talking in earnest about becoming parents, I was in my midthirties, and Eric was close to forty.
We moved to Southern California in 2007 and lived in a townhouse subsidized by the university where we both taught. Eric had been hired for his first tenure-track faculty position in a graduate school of education, preparing teachers for public school classrooms. I was the trailing spouse, language that reminded me of the signs along some California highways that show an adult holding the hand of a small child who appears to float in the wind, feet not touching the ground.
Eric liked our life as it was. He liked our freedom, the ease of escaping to the Sierras to backpack and to the Alabama Hills to climb, the unfettered time for activism, for work that might make a difference. We could turn our attention and our resources toward all children, he reasoned, not just our own.
You re enough for me, he said. I m okay if it s just the two of us.
My friends had desperately wanted to be pregnant, and many had been willing to do anything to make pregnancy possible take hormones, give themselves shots, find egg donors, buy sperm, endure IVF procedure after IVF procedure, go into debt, hire surrogates. Their certainty threw my uncertainty into relief.
I don t know what I want, I said.
Figure out what you want, he said, and we ll do whatever you decide.
I d struggled for
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most of my life to name my desire, separate it from other people s expectations. To know my answers to even the smallest questions pizza or burrito, hike or bike ride, comedy or documentary I had to meditate, write in my journal. And when I did manage to figure out what I wanted, it was hard for me to say it. I didn t trust my knowing. Especially when someone else wanted something different.
Eric does not suffer from indecision. He knows what he wants, and he isn t afraid to say it. For him, this isn t about control. It s about integrity and honesty. It s about not making other people read your mind. He says what he needs, and he trusts I will do the same.
But I didn t do the same. When it was time for us to figure out if we wanted to have a baby, I hadn t been saying what I wanted for years. And Eric was always so sure. If I didn t know what I wanted for dinner, then why not eat what he wanted to eat? Why not watch what he wanted to watch? Why not hike where he wanted to hike?
These little deferrals accumulate.
I imagine it feels good to be married to someone who accommodates, especially if you don t know that s what s happening. It makes it easier to say We ll do whatever you decide because past experience indicates we always agree.
Until we didn t.
Until I wanted a baby, and he did not.
the biggest gift
I wanted a baby, but I d also swallowed whole the story that being a mother would ruin my writing, ruin my life. If I have to play with trains for one more second, a friend texted me, I m going to shoot myself. Everyone I knew who had kids complained about it. There wasn t eno
Eric does not suffer from indecision. He knows what he wants, and he isn t afraid to say it. For him, this isn t about control. It s about integrity and honesty. It s about not making other people read your mind. He says what he needs, and he trusts I will do the same.
But I didn t do the same. When it was time for us to figure out if we wanted to have a baby, I hadn t been saying what I wanted for years. And Eric was always so sure. If I didn t know what I wanted for dinner, then why not eat what he wanted to eat? Why not watch what he wanted to watch? Why not hike where he wanted to hike?
These little deferrals accumulate.
I imagine it feels good to be married to someone who accommodates, especially if you don t know that s what s happening. It makes it easier to say We ll do whatever you decide because past experience indicates we always agree.
Until we didn t.
Until I wanted a baby, and he did not.
the biggest gift
I wanted a baby, but I d also swallowed whole the story that being a mother would ruin my writing, ruin my life. If I have to play with trains for one more second, a friend texted me, I m going to shoot myself. Everyone I knew who had kids complained about it. There wasn t eno
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Autoren-Porträt von Sarah Sentilles
Sarah Sentilles is the author of Draw Your Weapons, Breaking Up with God, A Church of Her Own, and Taught by America. A graduate of Yale University and Harvard Divinity School, she lives in Idaho s Wood River Valley.
Bibliographische Angaben
- Autor: Sarah Sentilles
- 2021, 432 Seiten, Maße: 14,5 x 21,5 cm, Gebunden, Englisch
- Verlag: Random House
- ISBN-10: 0593230035
- ISBN-13: 9780593230039
- Erscheinungsdatum: 17.07.2021
Sprache:
Englisch
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In prose so gripping it reads like a thriller, Sentilles describes the choices that led to the moment when she and her husband are on the phone with a social worker, saying yes to fostering a three-day-old girl. . . What makes this book so powerful is that by experiencing motherhood through the lens of fostering, Sentilles is able to look at the wrenching and worn-out topics of parenting in a new way. San Francisco ChronicleA heartbreaking memoir that, if you let it, will change the way you understand love and loyalty and family and caretaking and belonging. Chicago Tribune
An astonishing account of motherhood experienced through the complex lens of foster parenting. Shelf Awareness
Beautiful, harrowing, and profound . . . With sensitivity and insight, Sarah Sentilles takes readers with her on her tender and wrenching path to motherhood while grappling with the complexities, contradictions, and injustices of a system meant to protect the most vulnerable. I love this book so much it hurts. Cheryl Strayed, author of Wild
This is a memoir for anyone who has ever loved a child or a whale or a bird or a tree, or indeed any part of this hard, beautiful world we all share, which is to say everyone. It is a memoir for everyone. Laurie Frankel, author of This Is How It Always Is
Stranger Care is an illuminating and heart-wrenching look at the foster care system in America, which includes half a million children and disproportionately impacts parents and kids of color. It is a transformative revelation. Piper Kerman, author of Orange Is the New Black
Stranger Care is a book about loving a child without boundaries, without bloodlines, without limits. This is the only book about parenting that I would recommend to anyone, because it strikes at the essential, complicated, and heartbreaking core of what parents do every moment of every day: love, love, love, love. No matter what.
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Emily Rapp Black, author of The Still Point of the Turning World
Stranger Care is a gripping and beautiful memoir. Sarah Sentilles shares a personal story that is also a story about how we live in America today and why we must find new ways to love and care for one another. Ben Rhodes, author of The World As It Is
Stranger Care is a work of radical moral philosophy as much as a memoir of one family s journey through the foster care system. Their story has changed me it broke my heart wide open in the best possible way and I don t think I ll ever be same. Lacy M. Johnson, author of The Reckonings
Sentilles uses the sheer power of her writing to lift their story above the failures of flawed adults and to remind us of the human heart s limitless capacity for hope. BookPage (starred review)
Essential reading for those hoping to be foster parents. Library Journal (starred review)
Memoir lovers and book groups will be enthralled. Booklist (starred review)
Stranger Care is a gripping and beautiful memoir. Sarah Sentilles shares a personal story that is also a story about how we live in America today and why we must find new ways to love and care for one another. Ben Rhodes, author of The World As It Is
Stranger Care is a work of radical moral philosophy as much as a memoir of one family s journey through the foster care system. Their story has changed me it broke my heart wide open in the best possible way and I don t think I ll ever be same. Lacy M. Johnson, author of The Reckonings
Sentilles uses the sheer power of her writing to lift their story above the failures of flawed adults and to remind us of the human heart s limitless capacity for hope. BookPage (starred review)
Essential reading for those hoping to be foster parents. Library Journal (starred review)
Memoir lovers and book groups will be enthralled. Booklist (starred review)
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