Just Another Sticky Mess (ePub)

Even after all the writing, the talking, there still are many women out there that find sexual encounters with men to be far from satisfying. This book contends that the reason for this is that we men usually engage in sex with women to only meet our sexual needs, goals...orgasm. This reduces women to no more than a warm place for men to masturbate and leaves women unsatisfied. Women want and deserve more and if we men want to be sensitive lovers, we need to have the right philosophy of why we engage in sex with women. This philosophy and the book's title was given to me by my father one rainy afternoon when he said: "If a woman does not have an orgasm, to her sex is just another sticky mess". How do we men make it more than just a sticky mess for our partners? The attitude of a good lover is simply that sex is a two person journey where each partner in the journey is committed to not only to reaching a goal, orgasm, but enjoying all the journey. I discuss how we men can be the sensitive lovers that women want and deserve. Though it does have a chapter on parts and things, this book does not discuss techniques and detailed sexual anatomy. I contend that it is attitude not just technique that separates a good lover from a bad one, a satisfying sexual experience for a woman and just another sticky mess. Not all the techniques in the world will give a woman a satisfying sexual encounter if she senses that she is still just a piece of meat being warmed up to accept your penis. What this book does cover are the practical and the philosophical aspects of being a good lover. On the practical side, it discusses disease and pregnancy, both of which can result in a woman having an even less satisfying experience than just a sticky mess between her legs. Principally, what is discussed is how to avoid disease and pregnancy, if desired, so that both partners can relax, a prerequisite to having truly satisfying sex, especially for the woman. The main chapter discusses in detail the philosophy, the attitude a man should have when engaging in sex with a woman. What is that attitude? We men should engage in sex purely for the enjoyment of our partner. Our goal should be her sexual enjoyment and ultimately her sexual satisfaction. I contend that if we do this, place her needs ahead of ours, ours will not only be satisfied but will be even more enjoyable for us. I stress the journey more than the destination. The before...and after moments that make sex and the orgasm that happens truly rewarding for both. We should make love to women because we love to make love to them. The following chapter discuss the importance of good hygiene regarding making sex an olfactory pleasant experience rather than just two pigs wrestling in the dirt. This is followed by a discussion of how we should treat women, each other, out of the bed. Sex only takes up a brief period of time and between those encounters both partners need to interact with each other, talk, do things. How we men as sensitive lovers treat women during these "off times" will have a huge impact on how satisfying our partner found the sex you just had and if she would want to engage in it again. Even a sexually satisfying experience for a woman can sour quickly if she is treated like shit afterwards. This holds even for one-night-stands where we still need to treat each other with respect and the dignity all humans deserve. The last chapter discusses how women can save some time by spotting jerks who will eventually lead to sexual disappointing encounters. Lastly, the epilogue sums up what I tried to get across in the book: The philosophy of being a good lover is simple. We men need to treat women in and out of the bed with the respect they deserve and often give us. If we put a woman's sexual needs and desires first and truly enjoy making complete love to her, it will be a tremendously satisfying experience for both and not just another sticky mess.